You Need Not Earn A Mothers Love

– Thoughts on Love for Mother’s Day

From the first breath of life, a baby begins to learn about love.

Throughout life, until that baby takes its last breath, love will amazingly be the most natural, joyful and wonderful experience in life and simultaneously the most challenging.

Learning to love and letting love evolve and grow is part of the miracle of life. Some might say that it is the purpose of life, the reason for living.

On Mother’s Day, here in the United States, it seems natural to consider the birth of my son, as I consider writing about love and the amazing lessons and changes that becoming a Mother gave me.

Motherhood is a life-changing event. Once you are a Mother, you are always a Mother. Being a Mother is perhaps nature’s best opportunity to learn about love.

I remember, as I am sure most Mother’s do, that powerful moment when after all of the discomfort of pregnancy and pain of delivery, my child was placed in my arms. In that moment there was such a welling up of joy and love in my heart that it could not be contained. Love, in that moment, became the most important thing I would ever do or could ever do with my life.

As I held my child in my arms and looked deeply into his eyes, he smiled. That moment, that first connection, opened a place in my heart and touched my Soul and spontaneously filled me with unconditional love that was so powerful and so profound that I knew I was in some way miraculously changed.

In that moment, by that connection of our Souls, I learned something about love that was beyond any lesson that life had ever offered me before. I was transformed, and I felt deep in my heart what I would learn, experience and grow with, by having this child, loving this child and protecting this child.

It was not simply the miracle of being a co-creator of life that overwhelmed me; it was how my awareness of what it means to love was transformed. To love unconditionally is, we are told, how God loves us. I knew at that moment that my son would never need to earn my love.

Yet, to really understand that is not easy. Unconditional love is selfless, and most of us, as human beings know ourselves to be selfish. To learn to love unconditionally is to learn to express that spark of the Divine that makes a human being unique and wonderful out of all of creation.

When you let love be your guide, you will never get lost.
– Genevieve Gerard

Perhaps it is through the miracle of becoming a Mother that this great life lesson is empowered. The miraculous event of motherhood will transform you and will provide the lesson of unconditional love.

It will teach you that it is not dependent upon the act of giving birth, but is related to becoming a Mother. This I learned when my nephew joined our family as a very welcomed adoptive addition. Being a mother is much more than just giving birth. It is a way of expressing love that is unique to that experience.

If your life was blessed with the experience of being a Mother, take a moment to pause and consider all that you have learned from that life’s adventure. Make sure that your loved ones know that they need not earn your love, but rather you give it unconditionally.

On May 10th and throughout the year, we should celebrate Mothers everywhere. Take the time to consider and be grateful for the love that has transformed and touched your life. It could be from your biological mother or from a grandmother, an aunt, a teacher or even a supportive neighbor.

Mother’s Day provides an excellent opportunity to remind us to express our gratitude for those who have loved us, guided us and supported us throughout our journey and who have provided us with the unconditional love that is called a Mother’s love.

Also, remember that the bonds of love and the lessons that love can teach in life most often reach their culmination in family life. And although families are imperfect, there is no other human structure that gives you more opportunities to learn about love, and to demonstrate what it means to love, than family.

Ironically, family not only teaches you to love, but also teaches you about the need to forgive, and hopefully also how to forgive.

No one anywhere can trigger our emotional response more powerfully than our families.
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Erik Fromm, humanistic psychologist and philosopher discusses in his book, “The Art of Loving” the importance developmentally of the unconditional love of a Mother’s love. He is quoted as saying,

“Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.”
– Erich Fromm

It is through your relationship with your Mother that you first begin to learn life’s lessons about love, so it is wonderful that by becoming a Mother you can learn how to love unconditionally.

In my deepest moments of meditation and reflection upon the meaning of life, I have found that learning to love is the most important of the lessons we are given throughout life. It seems that most of life’s challenges and the very best of life’s blessings and joy are interwoven with love.

I believe in your life, it is what you have done for love, that gives you the greatest sense of accomplishment and the deepest sense of satisfaction and success. If you take this celebration of Mother’s Day, and consider the Mother’s love in your own life, I feel you will also find that to be true. Ponder on this.

Take this moment to consider and meditate on all that you have learned about love in your life.

You may wish to record these thoughts and impressions in your journal. If you don’t have a journal, you may wish to take this day to begin one.

You might wish to add to your consideration of what love is, the words of St. Paul in his famous epistle to the Corinthians.

The Way of Love

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.

Love never ends… so now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
– 1 Corinthians, English Standard Version (ESV)

From the moment of your birth to the moment of your death, giving and receiving has more impact on your life than anything else you do. Throughout your life, the lessons you learn about loving are the most profound.

This is true of learning to love within your family relationships. It is true when you strive to love one another as you have been loved by God. It is true of learning to love yourself. One might say that life is a classroom where the primary lesson is love.

Love has the power to redeem and the power to heal. It is a bridge across the divide between life and death because when you love another, the bond is forged from Soul to Soul.

The spark of your Self that is both Divine and eternal is what gives love its greatest power and provides the greatest joy.

This day is the perfect time to celebrate love and to consider the many ways that love manifests in your life. This day is a perfect time to consider the ways that love influences your life. Throughout your life is the perfect opportunity to express your gratitude for the love you have received.

We love life, not because we are used to living, but because we are used to loving.
– Fredrick Nietzsche

Mother’s Day can also be a powerful time to forgive and let the hurt of your past heal. It is time to accept the grace and healing love of the Divine Mother. It is a time to invoke the work and wisdom of the Divine Mother in your life.

This Mother’s Day, celebrate love, celebrate life and demonstrate love in your life!

Namaste,

Genevieve

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