Love Frees You from the Pain of Attachment

This article is part of my ongoing series on Love.

It is one of the saddest parts of observing the human drama to note how, Love, the most significant spiritual power and healing power in the world can be used, or more truly misused to create sorrow and pain.

The misunderstanding of what love is all too often fuels emotional pain, not because Love creates pain but because of all of the illusion, expectations, and attachments get superimposed upon Love, trapping Love and holding it prisoner.

This is the result of confusing Love with romance and sex.

Whereas, it is true that romantic Love and sexual Love can serve as a portal for experiencing Love, this failure in understanding the complete nature of what it means to love leaves you associating the pain of need and unfulfilled desires and expectations diminished with what is identified as Love but is a pale reflection of real Love.

Free Love to Be Love

Perhaps the most life-changing and healing thing you can do is to free Love to be Love. That requires realizing that what you have been told is Love is sometimes not what Love is about.

To free Love requires discrimination and discernment in your loving relationships. This may require a shift in what you desire and think you need from Love to let Love be the eternal energetic essence that is its nature.

To let Love be Love in the midst of your ego attachments and desire, nature requires a significant shift in your understanding of what Love is, and equally important to understand what is not Love.

Love Is Not Attachment

What is both amazing and miraculous is that Love, when freed from the imprisonment of attachment and desires that have imprisoned it, is able to touch your life and allow the real relationships that have Love, be free.

Love can heal your life while it frees and releases the fears, the attachment, from the deceptions and illusions.

That is possible because Love is more powerful than all of the illusions and glamour that society uses to disguise Love. Yet, to free Love to be Love, to be the eternal and life-changing power that it truly is means allowing it to release fear, dispel pain, and reveal what is real and expose what is not real.

Love is not attachment, and attachment is not Love. Ponder on this!

It is the misunderstandings about Love that creates pain. It is the attachment and desire that keeps Love from being the source of joy that Love really is.

Mother Theresa explored this when she said, “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more Love.”

Love is a Divine force in the world. It is the most essential life lesson we can learn.

When you learn what love really is, and how Love really works, so much of the pain and suffering in life can be removed. It is not only the healing of hurts but rather the disillusion of the harm into oblivion.

How could what is eternal and unified by its very nature create a sense of pain and separation? It cannot! Only the illusions, expectations, and desires can produce the pain of separation.

This is important to understand this both when coping with the potential of the loss of romantic and sexual Love and also in the pain of losing a loved one through the separation of death.

It is a great illusion that you can ever lose one you have loved. It is an illusion that can create vast pain and sorrow in life. It is an illusion that can deny the very nature of what Love is and confine it in the trappings of the limitations of matter. Remember, love exists outside of matter in the realm of your Soul and is held in the embrace of eternity.
– Genevieve Gerard

Love Is A Soul-To-Soul Connection

No matter how much you strive to limit Love to the material and the temporal, it escapes those bounds for the Soul that connects you to those you love with a bond that is not limited by time, nor confined by matter.

True Love really only exists in Spirit. What is observed and experienced in matter is a reflection. Much like in Plato’s famous analogy of life in the cave, what is real, what is true is more beautiful and amazing than the fantasy to which you cling.

To Love in truth is a Soul-to-Soul connection. To experience the full breadth and scope of that power requires that you open your mind and your heart to your Soul.

Love is the joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amazement of the Gods.
– Plato

Life is more than what you can experience with only the five senses of matter with your physical body. To try to take what is eternal and confine it within what is temporal and eternal creates suffering.

Love Is More Than Desire & Passion

Although desire and physical passion can be used to help you overcome the limiting sense of separation and thus often demonstrate the union of Soul that is possible with Love, it is vital to not fall into the trap of thinking and believing that the physical passion that is ignited is the real power. Instead, the union of bodies is only a portal to the union of Souls that true Love creates.

Sexual Love and passion reveal the truth that when you love, you can transcend the pain of loneliness and isolation, but the transcendence is not in the physical release and sensations but in the connection and expression of Love.

That is what is real, and what is eternal you receive with that connection. Love transcends the times of physical contact and passion for creating that which is unlimited and unconfined by the material world. The sex and desire are only the icings, a treat, a lure, an adventure to open the connection.

That sex can have this connection to your Soul is the reason it is wise to have circumspect and discrimination about how, when, and where you share your body. It is not from judgment or a moral code, but rather the understanding of the power of sex to open your heart and mind and Soul to Love.

That Love is healing and has the power to transform and impact your life, makes the gift of your body potentially much more than just a physical act. Sexual expression of Love is designed in the very essence of your being to be a mystical expression beyond merely a physical act of the physical body because it expresses not only physical desire and passion but activates the emotions. It also stimulates your mind, but what is most important and significant is that it can connect you with your lover, Soul-to-Soul.

It is in that connection, Soul-to-Soul, that Love is born. It is that connection that can free you from the pain and sorrow that attachment often associates with a lover leaving your life and regular contact.

It is a profound truth in life that once you have loved someone, the Love is etched in the annals of karma and time and exists eternally in the realm of the Soul. I have found along with my lessons of life’s adventures that there is an energetic pathway that is never severed once that Love connection is created.

This Soul-to-Soul Love connection is true of many different relationships and roles through which we encounter and explore one another in life. When you recognize the difference between Love and attachment, you also realize that someone you loved in your life experiences, family, or friend or lover is never and cannot be lost to you. No matter what is true in your physical and material life, this is true in your essential spiritual life.

The ramifications of this realization are vast in enabling you to separate from a loved one when life circumstances make that necessary. The consequences are profound when death separates you from a loved one. This understanding is a profound truth that you may have known on some deep and archetypal level but is freeing when you acknowledge it as fact.

The awareness of Love as more than sex, more than need, more than desire, to an understanding of Love as an energy is enlightening. Understanding that the essence of Love is not material but rather Spiritual opens you to the realization that Love cannot end for it is created by the part of us that is timeless and eternal. Letting yourself Love beyond attachment takes you to the truth that Love never ends. Once created and forged in the fire of Spirit Love is expressed by wishing and desiring only what is right for and best for the beloved. This is dramatically different from the needs, the desires, and the ego demand that fueled attraction and passion.

It is perhaps a mistake that the same word is used to express “sticky” Love and real Love. Perhaps humanity should create different words like the ancient Greeks did to differentiate and describe the many different ways Love can be demonstrated in life. Until our understanding of Love expands and grows, we are left with the danger of confusing attachment with Love or desire and passion with Love.

It may be that this confusion is necessary to permit the “sticky” form of Love to serve as the portal for Love, for passion, need and desire to be the reward for the opening to the Spiritual and unselfish aspect of your being that is known as your Higher Self (your Soul.)

Namaste,

Genevieve Gerard

The Blessing of Love on All That You Do!

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About the author:
Genevieve Gerard teaches Transformational Consciousness – from first awakening to enlightened Soul awareness. She helps you experience the joy that results from the spontaneous “touch of your soul.”